3 Selfish Reasons to Go to the Park
Getting three kids and a puppy to the park is rough. It’s hot here in Texas and it’s always SUCH an ordeal to pack up diapers, water, snacks, and well, everything. It can be overwhelming as it’s usually just me and the girls. People see me and always say, “you sure got your hands full.” Ya think?
So I find myself making excuses to go; I’m tired, we’re low on gas, the dog looks ill doesn’t she? Ugh. But today I made a few revelations.
1. I Get Out of The House
Hey, it’s not like I’m going to a ball. But I am outside, getting fresh air and I tend to meet other moms at the park and it’s nice to have a discussion with folks around my age. My girls run me like crazy and the exercise I get makes a day at the gym look like a cake walk.
3. I Get to Wear My Kids Out
Sure, my kids are getting plenty of vitamin D and lots of exercise. They are playing, so I know they are learning, and they’re interacting with other kids. What they are doing that helps me though is getting worn out. All of my kids have skipped the nap time phase in their lives. Of course this changes when they’ve had a big day at the park. By 11am they are out till 1pm. So maybe, next time I won’t drag my feet so much, reread this then rush to the park
2. I Get to Unplug
At the park I can’t be on my phone. Sorry, but I don’t want to be THAT parent at the park.
- You know the one who is on Facebook while his/her kid is crying, being bullied, left hanging, rolling down a sharp rock-broken glass-encrusted incline…?
I can’t bring myself to be on the phone anymore after watching this video by Lu Hanessian of Parent2ParentU
I DO bring my phone when I have a client near early labor…but it’s on silent and doesn’t get looked at unless it goes off. Even then unless you are my client, you don’t get me, unless you get me.
Besides the unplug it’s all about the sensory down load.
- I love getting into the same head space as my kids. It’s so nice to see what they see, hear things the way they hear it. It seems watching my kids play is the only time I can turn off my inner dialogue. I watched Charlie today for like 18 minutes straight. Just filling and emptying a bucket of sand over and over. It was mesmerizing, watching her yellow shovel slowly, calculating and purposeful, over and over again. Filling, emptying and refilling her bucket,I realized I was only watching her and her task at hand. Nothing else mattered, as if I had no bills, debt, responsibility…I felt so joyful…Mind you I knew and know I still have debt and responsibility, I said I was mesmerized not delusional.
- It’s just that when I watch my girls I am reminded of being a kid and how great it is. To be in the moment. They aren’t worried about what’s next or when we’re going home. I never get to be that way doing yoga or other times when I try and meditate. So forget hiring a guru. I’m just going to watch my kids and everyone else can think I’m a good mommy but I’m really in it just for me.(so I can be a good mommy) . See you at the play ground. Unless you are on your phone.